Establishing Privacy with Elderly Loved Ones

When adult children make the decision to become the family caregiver for an aging loved one, they often move in with the parent or have the parent move into their home.  It can be a real adjustment living with each other again.  One factor that is sure to cause some tension is the lack of privacy.

Every family member needs some privacy, which is their own physical and mental space that is free from intrusion.  Because caring for elderly loved ones can be quite time-consuming, it’s important to work out privacy issues before they can become real problems.


Caregiver in Wasilla AK: Privacy For Seniors And Caregivers

Caregiver in Wasilla AK: Privacy For Seniors And Caregivers

Physical Privacy

Both the family caregiver and the elderly loved one need some space that is completely their own. Sleeping space should be private and if possible, have some space for living, such as a television and chair.  Sometimes it means fixing up a guest room or converting a dining space or other room into an elderly person’s space.  Still, other adult children may find it easiest to donate the master bedroom space to their elderly loved one on the main floor and take a room upstairs to maintain privacy.  Many families are building add-ons to their home for elderly loved ones to have their own space yet still able to benefit from the family caregiver’s care.

No matter what the arrangement, it needs to be clear to both the adult caregiver and the elderly loved one that certain spaces are off limits to each other and that they should only enter when invited.  Locks or other inhibitors may be needed, especially if the elderly loved one is not as conscious about personal boundaries due to personality or mental illness.  When people in close quarters have physical privacy, it’s easier for them to live together in the common areas of the home in harmony.

Mental Privacy

Mental privacy is harder to get and even harder to define.  It’s really a chance for both family caregivers and elderly loved ones to not have to engage with each other for short periods of time.  Physical space of their own can help with mental privacy, but it also includes getting actual breaks by having the elderly loved one stay with other family members for a day or so.  Another option can help by having an elderly care assistant take over caregiving duties in the day so the adult caregiver can take some much needed time to run errands or pamper themselves for a bit.

The best way for mental privacy to happen is for adult children to take frequent caregiving breaks, utilizing a home care provider to offer respite.  Elderly people also benefit from interacting with a wide range of people and not just depending on their family caregiver all the time.  Mental privacy also includes not having to share the details of every thought, phone call or visitor with each other, and respecting one another’s independence.

It’s important for family caregivers to remember that a live-in senior family member doesn’t remove their right to some privacy.  With communication and proper boundaries, adult children and elderly loved ones can coexist and mutually benefit each other.


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Baykham Keodouangdy - Program Administrator
Baykham Keodouangdy - Program Administrator
Baykham Keodouangdy - Program Administrator In reflecting on this journey, my home care career, I cannot help but think of my parents. I assisted alongside my sister, to care for them during their last years. Both mother and father had suffered a stroke, heart attacks, diabetes, dementia, hypertension and many more complications that I cannot even imagine going through. Life as a caregiver was not easy but it was something that you just had to do, especially for your parents. Both my parents needed full-time 24-7 care, meaning they could not do anything for themselves. Every day my sister would care for them, whether it was assisting them to medical appointments, cooking and cleaning, bathing and showering, or transferring from wheelchair to bed. It was their complete care for all activities of daily living. I think of my parents often. My father passed in 2012 and my mother recently passed in 2015. I would give anything to have them back. That would be selfish to say, as it would have meant them suffering and not living a full life. I know they are in heaven smiling down. With the experience of caring for my parents, I was able to secure a job as a direct support professional. I was later offered a job as a case manager and excelled to become a team leader. Gradually I was promoted to being a care coordinator and from then on, I just knew this was meant for me. This is my calling; this is my life’s purpose. I went on to experience greater things in this field of Human Services. To care and help individuals and families find support and services needed to navigate the system to meet their needs, is such an honor and rewarding experience to be involved in. I look back, and a decade has passed since I started and it is now 2017. I would love to thank my parents for giving me the opportunity to have the experience of caring for them and go on to do something great with helping others find care and support in the community.